Taking your handcuffs off is a spiritual practice that frees you from the enshacklement of over-consumption, negativity, and a lack consciousness. It encourages you to relinquish such things as: harsh judgmentalness; fear; doubt; laziness; feeling unworthy; rudeness; lack of diplomacy; cussedness; chronic nay-saying; passivity; pretentiousness; repulsiveness; materiality; malevolence; maliciousness; not putting limits on limits; etc.
Wouldn’t your life be better without these handcuffs? In a very real sense, if you experience any of these negative tones coming from other people toward you, they are literally spamming you! In IT language, spam is unsolicited, undesired, or illegal email messages that are sent to you electronically.
The demeaning negative harshness mentioned above is emotional spam. These types of harshness are ‘sent’ by others to make people feel unworthy and undeserving. We even spam ourselves whenever we express these kinds of negativity.
All of these things handcuff us to the world of outer appearances and the ‘sense sludge’ that comes with it. Freeing ourselves from egocentric defense mechanisms allows us to keep a more positive outlook and view the world from an optimistic perspective. Taking these kinds of handcuffs off liberates us from keeping ourselves incarcerated in stale perspectives and self-defeating habits that can seriously interfere with our spiritual growth.
Detoxing ourselves whenever we find ourselves on the business end of any of these self-inflicted — or other-inflicted — handcuffs can be a truly liberating experience. For example, guilt trips are a clear form of psychological manipulation, control, and coercion. The poisonous effects of guilt trips can cause long term resentment against ourselves and against the guilt inducer. Trust, respect, and closeness can be destroyed. We have the key to the cuffs! And that key is negating the power of outer appearances and affirming our oneness with our innate Divinity.
The fallout from shame, anger, fear and worry works the same way. Their poisonous fruits are just as corrosive and destructive as the consequences are of a guilt trip. They can rip your self-esteem apart and fracture your self-confidence. Once again, the key is negating the power of outer appearances and affirming our oneness with our innate Divinity.
Here’s the thing: the keynote of this spiritual practice is detoxing these negative emotions by becoming a consummate escape artist. We must remind ourselves that no one can take us on a guilt trip unless we’re willing to go! So, don’t go! Nobody has the power to make us feel fearful or angry without our consent. So, don’t give it! No one can cause us to worry unless we buy into the woefulness of the uncertainty. So, refuse to worry.
Some of the handcuff busters that make this practice a great addition to your spiritual resume are:
- focus on what you can do instead of what is beyond your control;
- forgive yourself for putting yourself on a guilt trip, or for needlessly worrying, or for feeling shame;
- disrupt rudeness with positive affirmations;
- shrug off self-deprecating thoughts and emotions of all kinds;
- refuse to allow someone’s cussedness to handcuff the rest of your day;
- ease any emotional upheaval by going into the ‘Silence’ (meditation) where you know both the solutions are and the peace that passes all misunderstanding resides.
There’s one more thing we’d like to mention when it comes to emotional handcuffs. Taking them off is one thing, but keeping them off is more important. Instead of allowing your emotional wounds to become abrasive and turn into open sores, open your spiritual ‘medicine cabinet’ and use a combination of the following ‘cuff buster’ medicines:
- positive I Am statements and affirmations,
- visualizing healthy solutions,
- breathing techniques that center you and calm you,
- affirmative prayer,
- ‘Dear Me’ talks,
- practicing random acts of kindness,
- nature walks,
- using the White Light Technique,
- having a good belly laugh,
- faithing it ‘till you make it,
- stepping up your gratitude,
- any other Self-affirming practices that remind you of your Divine Nature!
So, take off your handcuffs, and keep them off! Your liberation from the world of limitations is what spiritual growth is all about … as you walk the spiritual path on practical feet.